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Pakistanis love to devour food, so much so that we live to eat than eat to live. And nothing explains this love better than our love for beef. Whether it is a plate of spicy nihari or haleem, or a perfect round shami kebab, everything tastes better with beef. Don’t hate us chicken lovers, you […]

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Pakistanis love to devour food, so much so that we live to eat than eat to live. And nothing explains this love better than our love for beef.

Whether it is a plate of spicy nihari or haleem, or a perfect round shami kebab, everything tastes better with beef.

Don’t hate us chicken lovers, you are just a minority.

And with Eidul Azha less than a month away, most of us have already decided on what dishes to make from our qurbani ki gaye.

But before we get carried away with all this beef talk and order a chapli bun kebab, here is the bad news.

According to a recent study, red meat eaters are at an increased risk of death as they might be more vulnerable to cardiovascular disease, cancer, respiratory and neurodegenerative disease. Red meat also includes lamb.

Related: The Good And The Bad In Consuming Red Meat

A study published in the British Medical Journal, looked at the link between changes in red meat consumption over an eight-year period with mortality rate during the next eight years, from 1986 to the end of follow-up in 2010.

As reported by the IANS, it shows that replacing red meat with other protein sources, such as eggs and fish, whole grains and vegetables, over time may help you live longer.

But don’t Chicken out yet. You don’t have to give up on eating beef completely.

The study found that people consuming 3.5 servings of beef per week over eight years were at a 10 per cent higher risk of death over the next eight years.

Related: You Don’t Need To Cut Out Meat Completely, Say Experts

However, considering that the study was based in the US, we can take the liberty to assume that red meat consumption in Pakistan is much higher than 3.5 servings per week.

So, to live a healthy life portion control and occasionally replacing your everyday beef consumption with fish, white meat or vegetables is important.

It’s OK to go for a chicken biryani over beef biryani for a longer life. But while at it, don’t forget the aloo.

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#WhyDidntIReport Because Anonymous Voices Are Equally Loud Too https://htv.com.pk/lifestyle/anonymous-voices-are-equally-loud Sat, 13 Jul 2019 09:15:33 +0000 https://htv.com.pk/?p=45278

The October of 2017 saw one of the biggest movements on social media as hashtag #MeToo gained momentum globally. While it was heartening to see so many people share their stories, there were many of those who remained anonymous. And it is encouraging to see platforms which give space to those who are not comfortable […]

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The October of 2017 saw one of the biggest movements on social media as hashtag #MeToo gained momentum globally. While it was heartening to see so many people share their stories, there were many of those who remained anonymous. And it is encouraging to see platforms which give space to those who are not comfortable in speaking up about sexual misconduct or violence.

Last year, different Subways in New York City saw a template which said #WhyIDidntReport and that initiated a conversation about the various reasons why people do not report their sexual assault. The initiative taken by two artists from NYC prompted many people to participate without the pressure of speaking publicly.

Habib Feminist Collective, a group of intersectional feminists have also started an online initiative #WhyDidntIReport to help people open up about their experiences with regards to traumatic experiences. The campaign isn’t limited to just university students rather it is an open call to whoever wants to share their story by reaching out to them via an email.

Their Instagram page shares the reasons why people who were harassed or assaulted did not report the incident to anyone due to various reasons. The documentation of those reasons is perhaps important because it may help in shifting the blame from the survivor to the perpetrator.

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Tw: mention of se/ual assa/lt & possession of weapons for threatening . . . . . "He was close to our family and he carried a blade with him. He would show me the blade every time I would threaten him with telling someone. But that is not why I stayed quite. I stayed quite because I have a little sister who was four back then and I was nine. He said that he would come after my sister next if I told anyone." #whyikeptquiet #whydidntireport #metoo #timesup •••••••••••••••••••••••••••••••••••••••••••••••••••••••••••••••••••••••••••••••••••• You can send us your reasons via email: habibfemcollective@gmail.com or inbox us on Facebook. EVERYTHING will be dealt with confidentiality and no details will be disclosed about the identity of the survivor, even if they personally consent to it.

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The team behind the collective told that there were many submissions initially and that they were hoping for other institutions to carry it forward, and because their social media account was new, the visibility got affected.

“There were some people who said they wanted to share their story but didn’t do it maybe it was because of it being extremely mentally taxing to go through the trauma repeatedly,” said Rida Khan of Habib Feminist Collective.

Related: Dear Women, Time To Speak Up Against Workplace Harassment

Given that the purpose of the movement is to provide a safe space to those who aren’t comfortable in going public, Khan feels that calling out the abuser can also trigger trauma while also being threatening for the survivor

“In our experience with the campaign, no one asked us to keep it non-anonymous and I think that’s great because all we wanted to do was create awareness. We’ve had enough of the victim blaming, maybe this was one way to make people hear the survivor’s end of the story,” she said.

Another member Umama Ishtiaq said that anonymity also addresses the stigma attached to the stories with regards to the victim abuse in the country: “We can’t guarantee the sort of response these stories will get, will they be met with empathy or backlash? But we can guarantee protection from trolls, if there are any. We would not want our contributors to be dragged over the internet or shamed for telling their stories. Once people know who they are, there is a possibility that they might even go to personal profiles to send hate.”

Ishtiaq felt that getting access to someone’s story meant a lot of responsibility on the team’s shoulders and they would not want to bring more abuse to anyone: “The stigma, the shame attached to being a victim of abuse is so intense in Pakistan that it can shatter one’s self esteem. While this campaign aims to do the opposite, to promote the concept of ‘you are not your abuse’ and most importantly ‘you are not alone’. The fact that they trusted us enough to share their cases with us means we have a responsibility towards them. We cannot bring more hurt and emotional abuse their way. We want to help in any way that we can and one way to do so is this campaign being anonymous.”

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Tw: S*xual Har*ssment . . . . . "I didn't report because he was my best friend and I couldn't believe he did that to me. I blamed myself for being so close to him. He was also seen as a really nice guy who helped everyone so I thought no one would believe me." . #WhyDidntIReport #whyikeptquiet #timesup ••••••••••••••••••••••••••••••••••••••••••••••••••••••••••••••••••••••••••••••••••••••• You can send us your reasons via email: habibfemcollective@gmail.com or inbox us on Facebook. EVERYTHING will be dealt with confidentiality and no details will be disclosed about the identity of the survivor, even if they personally consent to it.

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Unfortunately, while these initiatives are important, the response by the audience can vary greatly and the campaign can also become a recipient of vitriol. However, the campaign has received a positive response from the online community, which is also surprising for the team because they believe that almost all feminist causes receive some backlash in the country.

“We have also noticed how the movement is being praised for responding to the backlash that the #MeToo movement got. The survivors who came out with their stories under the #MeToo movement were met with questions like: why now? What took you so long? Why didn’t you tell someone? The why didn’t I report movement hopes to answer these questions,” said another member Tasbiha Asim.

Related: Can Accusations Against Kami Sid Shed Light On The Woes Of The Transgender Community

While these campaigns are extremely important, it’s equally necessary to be considerate about the people behind them because it can be taxing to read through the stories as well.

Khan explained that almost all of them had one thing in common that the survivors doubted themselves and they thought if they did report, no one would believe them.

“There were some terrifying stories and while it did take a toll on our mental health, we knew we had to keep going. The campaign proved to be a tool for survivors to get some closure. While reporting their abuser might seem impossible to them, having a space where they can talk about the reasons without alerting their abuser provided them with some comfort. We see this campaign as a gateway to healing, spreading awareness and putting an end to victim blaming,” she said.

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Trigger warning: mention of ass/ult, nonconsensual s/x . . . . . . So basically, we were dating for some time and I was genuinely in love with him. So obviously, I never saw his toxic traits as "toxic" and I never understood what he was doing and why he did it. All I know is I always had an excuse for his abusive behaviour. It is now, months after therapy I see everything for what it is. He would use my body for his needs, EVEN THOUGH I KEPT SAYING that I DO NOT consent to this but he kept forcing himself on me. Every time I would confront him with this, he'd apologise and promise to not do it again but of course he did it again. It got to a point where I was mentally exhausted with his behaviour and I just let him do it, JUST SO he would let me go. If I didn't let him, he'd hold onto me so tight it'd hurt me. I just wanted him to let me go, I didn't want any of the physical activities. but I didn't report any of this because I'm still confused if this is an attempt at rape? Or am I to be blamed for something here? I have contemplated many times about what I "could" have done to stop it, but it all comes back to the point where he just wouldn't let go till he was "done". I was always, never left with an option but to submit.. and I really don't know how to face the courts with this. The thought of "tum thi hi ku uske sath?!" "Akele jane ko kis ne kaha tha" haunts me everyday and I don't have the strength to hear that I lost a case where my body was used against my will because I don't have enough proof that whether I ever said "NO" clearly or not. #whydidntireport #whyikeptquiet #metoo #timesup ••••••••••••••••••••••••••••••••••••••••••••••••••••••••••••••••••••••••••••••••••• You can send us your reasons via email: habibfemcollective@gmail.com or inbox us on Facebook. EVERYTHING will be dealt with confidentiality and no details will be disclosed about the identity of the survivor, even if they personally consent to it.

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The team also aims to take the campaign further by giving it coverage by tying it with different events happening at their university.

“We plan on making ourselves visible through either stalls or the distribution of badges, posters, pamphlets etc,” said Fatima Durrani.

It cannot be stressed enough how important it is to talk about sexual abuse and harassment at all levels because while the element of shame is attached to abuse, oppressed genders do not speak about it because they are conditioned to believe that nobody will trust their story, and the cis-het males also shrug it off owing to toxic masculinity.

In either of the cases, speaking up breaks the taboo surrounding these topics and conversations about abuse would not only shift the burden of proof onto the perpetrator instead of the victim but may also ensure that the cycle of abuse breaks, once and for all.

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Why PDA Makes Most People Cringe https://htv.com.pk/lifestyle/pda-makes-people-cringe Fri, 12 Jul 2019 08:10:44 +0000 https://htv.com.pk/?p=45275

Unless you have been living under a rock, you would know that actor Yasir Hussain proposed to Iqra Aziz at the Lux Style Awards 2019 on Sunday night, July 7th. Yasir got on his knees and asked his lady love to marry him in a hall filled with over 100 people, clapping and hooting for […]

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Unless you have been living under a rock, you would know that actor Yasir Hussain proposed to Iqra Aziz at the Lux Style Awards 2019 on Sunday night, July 7th. Yasir got on his knees and asked his lady love to marry him in a hall filled with over 100 people, clapping and hooting for Iqra to say yes.

And she did.

The yes followed with Yasir’s public display of affection as he planted kisses on Iqra’s cheeks. While some applauded the couple, this PDA gave way to a heated debate over the internet. Many termed it to be cringeworthy and an uncomfortable watch.

But what is it about PDA that makes people uncomfortable?

According to Psychologist Yumna Usmani, the thing about PDA is that it is two sides of a coin: either heartwarming or downright repulsive for the people.

But why do Pakistanis specifically find PDAs more repulsive than heartwarming? “First and foremost, they perceive it as a threat to societal standards – being accepting of it will allow it to spread and become a norm,” says Usmani.

Related: Parents’ Affection, Touch Vital For Long-Term Development

Secondly, she explains that public displays of affection just happen and people become an unwilling audience. “This feeling of being forced and unwillingness is unsettling,” she says.

For some, it may also show up as a result of longing for something they may be lacking in their own lives, mentions Nida Aslam Roshan, a humanistic and integrative therapist.

“Not having a lover, or a loving partner, or holding one’s self back from finding love out of certain fears, may also give rise to dismissing, suppressing and rejecting the feeling and expression of love,” she adds.

Why do couples indulge in PDA?

While there is a lot one can say about others’ deep-rooted issues with witnessing PDA, what does PDA say about couples, such as Iqra and Yasir, indulging in it?

According to a 2013 Ohio State University study, couples into PDA have more chances of lasting longer. Usmani mentions that the couple who engage in PDA might just have an affectionate style, may want to exude confidence and strength of their relationship.

However, Aslam believes PDA may not always translate to a couple having a successful relationship. “Individuals experiencing feelings of insecurity in their relationship also at times feel the need for PDA,” she says.

Pakistanis and the backlash on PDA

Iqra and Yasir’s PDA also exposed an important aspect of our society. A significant number of people on Twitter mentioned that Pakistanis are OK with witnessing violence on screen and in real life but cringe at the sight of love or affection.

While people may be quick to rule out the Pakistani society to be a problem, Aslam explains that acceptance towards violence isn’t limited to a country or region. “Human evolution has always had certain sacrifices at its core. Wars, violence and chaos remained at the core of each civilization, until human beings became somewhat immune to it,” she says.

On the other hand, Aslam says that based on the phenomenon of negative bias, our minds are hardwired to indulge and be more receptive of negatives than positives.

Related: Are You In Love? 13 Signs That Say Yes

In Pakistan, or perhaps the world over, people preach the motto to ‘live and let live’ but it is rarely practiced.

Iqra and Yasir raised many eyebrows with their PDA but we wish them the very best for their life ahead.

What do you think about PDA? Let us know in the comments below.

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Here Is How You Can Talk To Someone About Family Planning https://htv.com.pk/health/family-planning Thu, 11 Jul 2019 11:37:30 +0000 https://htv.com.pk/?p=45268

Pakistan’s population, according to the latest Census 2017, is at around 200 million people. This is expected to increase to around 400m by 2050 as stated in the latest UN report. Just 30 more years and there will be more people in this country than the land and the resources can afford. But our policymakers […]

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Pakistan’s population, according to the latest Census 2017, is at around 200 million people. This is expected to increase to around 400m by 2050 as stated in the latest UN report.

Just 30 more years and there will be more people in this country than the land and the resources can afford. But our policymakers seem less bothered about it as they continue their tirade against other political parties.

The most concerning aspect, however, is that the rapid increase in population is because family planning is still a taboo in Pakistan. While different birth control methods are available in the country, contraceptive prevalence is only 32% among wealthier couples and only 12% among the poor.

Lady Health Workers and other non-governmental organizations are doing their part in spreading awareness and importance of family planning. But we also need to contribute in ways we can.

First and foremost, by having the conversation ourselves at our homes.

This World’s Population Day, which is observed every year on July 11, it’s time we have the hard talk with couples around us. Here is how we can do that without making it seem like we are invading into their personal space.

Be direct

Talking about family planning is talking about sex, which is why many people shy away from having the talk.

So, while it may seem convenient for you to try and beat around the bush to put your point across, it may leave the other person confused.

Get to the point straight. And if you yourself is uncomfortable in explaining then back yourself up with the right reading material. Pass it on to the person or couple and ask them to educate themselves about what family planning is and why it is important.

Inform don’t preach

More often than not, people do not like to be told what to do and you coming off as preachy will only make them more resentful towards having the conversation.

So, inform and explain assuming that the other person knows little or nothing. Most importantly, be patient when trying to put your point across.

Consult a doctor

It is important to remember that if you are using a particular birth control method yourself, it isn’t necessary that it would also be useful for someone else.

Related: Male Birth Control Pills Could Soon Be A Reality

The decision about what kind of method to use is a woman’s personal choice but before opting for one it’s best to advise her or the couple to consult their family doctor.

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Why Mothers Are Finding It Difficult To Breastfeed Their Infants in Pakistan https://htv.com.pk/moms/breastfeed-infants-in-pakistan Wed, 10 Jul 2019 05:43:03 +0000 https://htv.com.pk/?p=45235

As per the National Nutrition Survey 2018 key findings published last month, there has been a steady increase in the proportion of children receiving breast milk during the first hour after birth between 2011 and 2018. However, the trend for exclusive breastfeeding is not linear. From 50% in 2001, it decreased to 37.7% in 2011 […]

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As per the National Nutrition Survey 2018 key findings published last month, there has been a steady increase in the proportion of children receiving breast milk during the first hour after birth between 2011 and 2018.

However, the trend for exclusive breastfeeding is not linear. From 50% in 2001, it decreased to 37.7% in 2011 and then again to 28% in 2018, bringing Pakistan close to the World Health Assembly target of 50%.

So why exactly has there been a decrease in women exclusively breastfeeding their infants?

Pediatrician at Margalla General Hospital Dr Nazia Abbasi says breastfeeding practices in Pakistan are decreasing every year due to multiple factors.

These factors include the fact that earlier only women who belonged to upper-class households used to avoid breastfeeding because they think it has an impact on their body shape among other things. But now women from the middle-class work full-time and don’t have the facility of daycare centers at their workplaces.

Shazia Luqman who works at a university in Islamabad gave birth to twins twice and never had complaints of less milk production. But she couldn’t take her kids to her workplace as it lacked the facility of a daycare center.

“At work I used to feel uncomfortable as I always felt the need to breastfeed as I had access milk production but had no choice but to wait. I couldn’t afford to quit my job,” she shares.

On the other hand, lower middle-class women complain about low milk production because of malnourishment.

Exclusive breastfeeding

According to the survey, the proportion of children who are exclusively breastfed for the first six months of life is highest in Khyber-Pakhtunkhwa (60.7%) and KP-NMD (59.0%), and lowest in Azad Jammu and Kashmir (42.1%) and Balochistan 43.9%.

Prevalence of the practice of continued breastfeeding is highest at one year of age at 68.4% and thereafter decreases to 56.5% at two years of age. Relative to the rates in 2011 this represents a decrease from 77.3% and an increase from 54.3%, respectively.

Dr Abbasi says children who are not breastfed for six months after their birth are more likely to suffer from various respiratory infections, such as, pneumonia and diarrhea. “Mothers must breastfeed exclusively for the first six months and continue it for at least the first year of the child’s life,” advises Dr Abbasi.

However, in urban areas a lot of women cannot breastfeed because there are no daycare centers at their workplaces, informs Dr Abbasi. On the other hand, most offices and organizations don’t allow children at work. “There is no replacement for mother’s milk and formula milk can never be a good substitute to it,” she says.

Related: Breastfeeding Tips For New Moms

It is also important to note that only a small segment of the society can in fact afford formula milk. Dr Abbasi explains that a lot of children are also malnourished because most people turn to lose milk as formula milk is a financial burden, and the former can affect the child’s physical growth and cause various infectious diseases.

Medical officer at the pediatrician department at the Mayo Hospital, Dr Imran Shah says that after six months the child can be fed comfort food. This may include khichri, semolina, kheer and banana. Hence, in case the child can’t be breastfed exclusively, he/she should be fed comfort food.

Moreover, lack of awareness also leads to a decrease in mothers breastfeeding their infants. For instance, a lot of women believe they cannot breastfeed their children if they have Hepatitis or TB.

However, Dr Shah clarifies that women who have AIDs are not allowed to breastfeed. Women who have TB and Hepatitis can breastfeed their children.

He also pointed out that the infant should be breastfed in the first hour of its birth as the mother’s milk has colostrum, which has antibodies and it boosts the strength to fight against diseases.

Most importantly, breastfeeding also strengthens the bond between the mother and the child, he elaborates. “It is also a natural contraceptive and reduces the chances of breast cancer in mothers,” mentions Dr Shah.

How to promote breastfeeding?

Dr Shah says there are things that can be done on governmental level like organizing lectures by medical field officers who talk about the importance of breastfeeding.

“When lady health workers visit houses and talk about these issues, women don’t pay attention to it thinking they are women of their [own] areas, hence they think how can they teach us.”

On the other hand, as the employment rate of women has increased, offices should be encouraged to set up a separate nursing room for mothers, recommends Dr Shah.

Related: When Does Breastfeeding Stop Hurting?

Dr Abbasi also says that companies need to revise their policies. “In Pakistan most women don’t get paid leaves and are required to forgo income in order to breastfeed,” she says. “In a country like Pakistan, breastfeeding should not be viewed as a personal choice as almost all women do understand how important breastfeeding is for the health of their children,” she adds.

There is a need to recognize the social and economic realities that curtail options for women who want to breastfeed their kids.

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