How do you know if your man is cheating? Usually, if you’re asking this question it means that something is missing in your relationship or you already suspect that you’re the victim of disloyalty. Every sign of cheating is different in each relationship, but there are some common threads that you can look for. The first thing you might feel is if your gut tells you that your partner is cheating, it may be right. So, before confronting your partner you may want to gather other evidence about their behavior. Here are common signs of disloyalty that you might want to look for:
If your partner suddenly starts eating healthier and exercising, that could be a sign that he might be having an affair with someone. If he starts focusing on his attire, suddenly smells like Chanel, gets a new haircut, and especially if your partner is the same around you, but significantly better for work or certain social events.
Secretive phone use
Cheating partners tend to use their phones more frequently than before and guard them as if their lives depend on them. If your partner’s phone never required a password before, and now they do, that’s not a good sign. If your partner is taking their phone into the bathroom when they shower, that’s not a good sign. If you ask to review your partner’s phone, and they say no, that’s something to worry about.
Your partner is unreachable
If your partner is less likely to answer your calls and respond to your texts that probably means that he is cheating on you. You may hear excuses like they were in a meeting, they were driving and didn’t know you were trying to get in touch. If your partner is unreachable that’s a bad sign.
An altered schedule
When your partner who never once worked late suddenly needs to work late, and that starts to happen more and more frequently, they may be lying. If they suddenly leave to travel for work, that could be a sign that they are having weekend getaways with an affair partner.
If there are odd expenses on your partner’s credit cards, or there is suddenly less money in your partner’s bank accounts that’s a possible sign of disloyalty. If you ask your partner about these bills, and their answers seem hard to believe, they are likely untrue. If you see large cash withdrawals or evidence of purchases from places you rarely or never buy from, that’s not a good sign.
If you learn that your partner has cheated on you, I strongly suggest confronting your partner. If you are not comfortable confronting him then talk to a trusted friend or a therapist. Just don’t sit there alone with your feeling and fear. Reach out and find empathetic support to make your misery bearable.