No Crying, No Fighting, Here’s How to Go on Holiday as a Couple


Going off on a holiday as a couple can be a romantic adventure for the both of you, creating memories you will cherish for years.

But then again, should the holiday turn bad, it will also be something that you’ll remember for a long time as well.

No tantrums, crying or (gasp) a breakup, at a holiday destination. It can be avoided, you just need to know how. Here are a few tips from Sonia Prades, a psychologist specialising in family relationships, on how to ensure a stress-free holiday.

Plan the Trip Together

When choosing a vacation, it can be all too easy for well-meaning lovers to go out of their way to make their partner happy. But there’s no point heading off on a mountain trek or a camping holiday only to become a critical killjoy once you arrive. That’s certainly a recipe for disaster. “When thinking about it together beforehand, you should look for common tastes, talk about what each person wants, and discuss the pace you want this vacation to take,” recommends Prades.

Talk about Money Before You Go

Even if the relationship is still quite new, couples should talk about money before heading on a holiday together. “Money is often the cause of arguments in couples, as it can mean different things to different people. Some find it difficult to treat themselves or to treat others. Whether you opt for a shared budget or keep things separate, it’s important to agree on the arrangements before you set off,” says Prades.

Fusion is Fine, but Enjoy Some Solo Time

There’s no point getting upset if one partner runs every morning and wants to keep up the habit on holiday, for example. “Everyone has their own idea of what vacation means and it’s important not to feel suffocated, especially when it’s your first trip away together,” explains Prades. The same goes for intimate time. Couples must read “the implicit signals sent by their partner rather than simply assuming that they’re ready and willing all the time, in spite of the heightened desire of a new relationship.”

Tolerance and Humour, the Two Key Ingredients

A couple’s first vacation is often the first time they experience each other full time in day-to-day life, especially if they don’t live together the rest of the year. Even if vacation is a time for freedom and abandon, a good dose of tolerance will make it easier to choose activities and plan time. “People who like to be in control will find it the most difficult. Ideally, you should try to remember that your partner is out of their usual environment too, and that you are both on equal footing.”

Plus, humour can ease tension in all kinds of situations. “You should go home feeling even closer and with a stronger desire to commit, buoyed by shared memories. Successfully tolerating each other, putting aside faults and overcoming disagreements. It’s what’s often referred to as ‘make or break’.”

Source: AFP Relaxnews