10 Signs Your Marriage is Making You Depressed


Relationships are meant to be the zest of life. Your partner is meant to be a source of strength, energy, encouragement and support. If, however, you feel that your relationship is none of these and is, in fact, dragging you down, then something is inexplicably wrong. You need to recognize the warning signs that your marriage is going downhill and address them with tact and wisdom. Lookout for these signs if depression in marriage

Signs of Depression in Marriage

1. You Don’t Communicate

Active communication is so very important. That means you and your spouse should always be willing to listen to each other. Note that there’s a solid line between hearing someone and listening to them. Hearing someone means that they’re talking to you, but listening means that you’re making an active effort to understand them, and to show them that you’re trying to understand. If one feels that they are not being listened to, it makes them feel lonely and isolated, which leads to the next tell-tale sign which is…

2. The Need to Discuss Your Relationship with Others

If one is insecure about their relationship, the first person they would go to is their spouse themselves, to figure out the problem once and for all. If you can’t rely on your spouse to listen to you, you’ll seek external advice, often from members of the opposite sex. Some would refer to this as emotional cheating, but in any case, it’s a sure-shot sign that your relationship is falling apart.

3. You Don’t Laugh Together Anymore

Marriage counsellors often say that the litmus test of one’s marital success is how many times a couple shares a smile or a laugh every day. If you can’t even remember the last time you and your partner laughed, that’s a dangerous territory. It shows that there isn’t enough positivity in your relationship and you’re missing out on sharing the best of life with your loved one.

4. Negative Thoughts about Your Marriage

If you’re insecure about your relationship, you’ll often spend time thinking about your marriage, and whether you and your partner will still be together ten years down the road. This negativity preys on your mind and will prevent you from thinking about the positives in your life. There should be no room for negative thoughts in your head.

5. You’re the One Putting More Effort

The idea that you’re putting in more effort into your relationship than your partner often gives rise to the idea that your partner doesn’t care about you as much as you do for them, and it is a huge cause of insecurity and depression in a marriage.

6. There is an Imbalance

On a similar note, if there is an imbalance in the workload shared between the couple, and we’re talking about the tangible things such as domestic work, then it can breed sentiments of resentment which can take a toll on one’s psyche.

7. You’ve Given Up

Depression often manifests in a lack of physical energy to get things done. So, if you feel like your relationship needs work, but you literally don’t have the energy to get up and do what it takes, that could be an easy indicator that you’re depressed and your marriage is one of the leading causes.

8. You are Not Socializing

Cutting oneself off from society, and that means both family and friends is often linked to clinical depression. But if it’s your spouse who keeps you from socializing too much, which can happen if he/she is excessively insecure, then you really need to take a step back and re-evaluate your relationship.

9. You Don’t Listen to Yourself

You need to be aware of whether you feel that you’re emotionally dependent on your partner, despite being unable to communicate effectively with them.

10. You Fear Your Partner

Last but not least, if you fear your partner, that’s a red flag that your relationship needs serious work, because there is a major communication problem there, and fear gives rise to more negative emotions that do nothing but drain you emotionally and physically.