Every now and then, once in a lifetime we come across this situation called, ‘heartbreak’. This heartbreak may be because of anything and everything at any time and many times. Heartbreaks are never easy. You can’t really describe the pain you feel to anyone because they have not experienced to what you have. And that is okay. For everyone is struggling with something or the other in life. We are no one to judge as we do not endure same level of pain they do. All we can really do is, try to take this heartbreak, accept it and let go.
There are many things one can do to distract and deal with the heartbreak. First and foremost. You have to accept that something awful has happened, and that you are hurt. Accepting is the first step and the hardest, as it leads to a trail of unanswered questions and can really mess with your mind. But, once you’ve got a hold on acceptance, which is when you know you have the strength to walk the rest of the way.
This is how I personally deal with heartbreaks and since I’ve had so many, I think I can vouch that they for after long hard work but eventually they do.
1. Pray
We often find ourselves lost and crippled during heartbreaks and forget the entity of God. I have always found a shelter of peace whenever I have prayed during the worst of times. Sometimes, all we need is to be heard. And what better way than to be heard by the Almighty, even when you can’t speak because He knows all. This makes me realize that even though I may feel alone, I really am not as he watches my every move and knows of my every tear.
2. Do things that have made you happy before the existence of reason of your heartbreak
This may not be an easy one as you want to be isolated most of the times. However, it is an easy way to forget for some moments to the pain you feel inside and give your chance at life once again. Be with friends who will be there for you and support you, or my favorite grab a good book to read and get lost in it.
3. Pamper yourself
This may seem a little rubbish as people hardly want to get up or even brush their hair, but trust me this does work. Treat yourself to a nice spa, and get soothing facials or mani/pedi done. Go a little shopping and have the feeling that you are starting all over. Think of it as new you.
4. Exercise
This doesn’t have to be exercise only now. You can do whatever that will have kick to your adrenaline rush. This can be swimming, Zumba, rock climbing, anything. A quick trick and a funny one, is to remind yourself of that heartbreak. This will automatically cause to push yourself further in whatever activity you have engaged yourself into. Your heartbreak will work like a motivation for you.
Forgive
This after acceptance is the hardest. Once you’ve accepted that something has happened for whatever reasoned and has turned to be a heart ache for you; forgiveness is the last step to your freedom ladder. Forgiving someone will liberate you from the burdening thought of having that experience in your life. It will help you to be more kind and affectionate to not only other but, yourself as you will recognize to be stronger to have such a great ability in you.
Heartbreaks are a silent deadly tranquilizer. But, like Rumi says, “Don’t give up, my heart, for miracles dwell in the invisible.”