When your relationship gets flat, it can be tricky to know if you’re at risk of breaking up. While every relationship goes through ups and downs, certain signs can show you if your guy or girl is ready to breakup with you. All of these may seem like hints that they’re on their way out, but sometimes the mind can play tricks, and blow small things way out of proportion.
If you see these signs in your relationship, don’t panic. Instead, proceed with caution, focus on reconnecting, and work on the areas of your relationship that need a little bit of extra love and care. After all, ignorance isn’t always bliss.
Checkout these 10 signs that hint that your partner is thinking to breakup with you and end the relationship.
1. They’re A Million Miles Away
They might be sitting next to you, but that’s about where the closeness ends. The most telling clue that the person you’re with is on the verge of ending your relationship is distance. Not proximity distance, but the emotional kind.
2. They Don’t Ask About Your Day
Like, ever. A healthy relationship is all about helping each other talk through days both hard and good. Lack of interest in what is going on with you is a big sign that someone is about to end a relationship. If all of the sudden the person you are in a relationship with stops caring about what’s going on at your end, or things that you enjoy doing, then a flag might be raised. It’s important to just discuss one another’s lives, and if that’s not happening, it could be a sign.
3. No More Hot Dates
Saturday night comes and goes with no contact. Well, not everyone goes out on Saturdays, and different things work for different people. But if you’re early in a relationship and you don’t go out at all over the weekend, then things may be a bit shaky. Similarly, if you’re in a long term relationship and you haven’t been going out much, you might want to look into why that is so. If you haven’t heard a peep from your partner all week, see what’s up.
4. When You Do Date, It’s a Group Thing
So maybe you do go out, but your partner is pulling some weird “limited quality time” stuff on you, life coach Kali Rogers tells Bustle. “If your partner is limiting the time you two spend together alone and only tries to schedule group outings, chances are they are trying to phase the relationship out,” she says. “Lack of physical contact and sex is another big indicator.” Don’t just ignore these signs — talk about it before things get worse.
5. There’s Precisely No Future-Tripping
If they stop making plans for the future, they might want out. When they refuse to discuss future plans, that is a definite lack of commitment, and things can only get worse from there. Think about strengthening your relationship.
6. They’ve Stopped Making an Effort
Relationships require effort from both the partners. Whether this means planning date nights or making up after an argument, putting effort into a relationship is how people show they care for each other.
If your partner has stopped trying, it might be a sign that they’re thinking about leaving.
7. They Put Their Friends First
While it’s important for couples to have space, spending every moment of their free time with others is definitely a red flag. To find out where your partner stands, ask to join them sometime. If an invite never comes, then you know to consider the reality of the situation.
8. They’re Being Secretive
The partner who’s having a secret affair or hiding feelings is a common movie trope. You know how the story goes. If you notice your significant other sneakily checking their phone, quickly logging out of Facebook, going out with strange friends or not sharing their plans, look at the bigger picture of what those moves might mean.
9. They Cut Back On Their Communication
You call and they don’t answer. You text and it goes unreplied. If your partner is cutting back the daily communication, then you may want to wonder why. When a person is unsure of a relationship, it’s common to slowly reduce the amount of contact they have with their partner.
10. You Feel Unappreciated
If you don’t remember the last time you heard a simple “Thank you” or “You’re the best,” you might start to wonder if your partner appreciates you. When a person is halfway out the door, it’s normal for them to justify their actions by denying how great their partner actually is. In other words, to feel better about themselves, they’ll stop recognizing your efforts and love.
Surely, there are many more signs that have not been captured here. However, I really hope that these 10 signs already mentioned help those facing such scenarios as we speak.
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